There’s this weird culture of telling kids when they stress about school “u ain’t seen nothin yet hun! Wait till u do tax returns! Hahaha adulthood is fucking hell!” And i hate it b/c
1) it’s flat out untrue. Adulthood is a breeze compared to school. I have time to myself to do what I find fun and can make my own choices. Like, yeah, I’m poor and have to take care of myself, but the central activity of my life– work – is waaaaaay easier than school, mentally and emotionally.
2) Part of the reason school made me anxious to the point of considering suicide is that I had this wrong idea, drilled into my head by YEARS of people saying this, that if I didn’t do well in school, I would be a useless member of society, unable to be productive or do anything meaningful. Failing a class meant I might as well be dead. That’s the false equivalence this culture creates. But grades don’t mean SHIT in the workforce unless you’re trying to become a college professor or do something that requires a hella advanced degree.
3) it helps no one to say this! All it does is give mentally ill children, most of whom are already struggling to get through the DAY, the idea that it will only get much, much worse. I know I couldn’t cope with that thought. Any future planning past my 20s was blocked out in a haze of terror at the thought of having to persevere that long, only to get a shittier situation at the end. But it’s not shittier. I have to be more responsible, but this is a piece of goddamn cake compared to even High School. The only reason to say this to a teenager is to inflate your own sense of superiority over someone who is still learning how the world works.
So like. Can we kill this culture? Please?
reblog because my first year of college is really hitting me right about now
also, depending on your job, for a lot of people you are free of working once you clock out. you might have other responsibilities to do but your work is over for the day and you can clear you mind of it until tomorrow. whereas in school, there are always assignments and studying looming over your head even when you’re taking a break. you never truly get to shut that part of your brain off and it’s exhausting. adult life has been way better in my experience. i can’t say it’s that way for everyone (i mean, there are people who have to work 3 jobs) but my point is it’s not necessarily going to get worse for everyone so we should stop pushing that idea.
Or telling them ‘you wait until you get to the REAL world.’ Like wtf, Karen, you think we’re in a damned dress rehearsal? I mean the universe may just be some weird hologram, but it doesn’t distinguish between ‘school’ and ‘not-school’.