Mind your business
there’s a simple explanation to this, though!
when you are planning to do something, you are taking responsibility. you are maintaining agency in your own life.
the moment someone else says “hey pick up your shit” then it becomes their command and your response to them. No longer do you get told “hey wow you picked up nice!” you get told “why did it take you so long to do what i asked”
Naturally, hearing that enough times creates a pattern of “rebellion” whereupon ANY request to do ANYTHING you’ve been planning to do immediately sours it
because it’s not yours anymore
Also, notice how nobody EVER believes you if you said you were already planning to do a thing, or even that you’d noticed it needs doing?